if you really think about it, nofollow defeats the purpose of allowing people who add meaningful content to your site, to post their personal URL in thier profiles and link when clicking their names.
The purpose of the "WEB" is not the points of connection, but the links in between, Google recognises this and so rank sites not only on who links to you, but also in who you link to.
There is no site that I can think of that is Banned by google so I am not sure where that argument comes from.
There are, however, sites that a web master may NOT want to be associated with, such as Enlarge Your Penile dot com, but that would be up to the web Master, admin, and moderators to control what posts go up.
Those settings are already in place with moderation tools.
If you intend to allow guests to post, moderate. if you intend to allow registrations, moderate registered users as well, at least the first one.
if you intend to run an open link farm, or an absentee landlord forum and let everyone post unmoderated, expect that you will get spam.
It’s the old complaint, "Doctor, it hurts when I do this…’ … The doc is going to reply ‘Stop doing it’
If you get a sharp pain in your eye when you drink tea or coffee… suggestion… take the spoon out of the cup before drinking… or just switch to milk…